How should we talk with people who are pro-choice?
I was raised in a pro-choice family, and I was raised to believe that Planned Parenthood was a kind of harbinger of civilization, a community of people that wanted to make sure that one “sexual mistake” would not cost a woman a lifetime. It made sense to me. I was raised to believe that pregnancy is a medical issue and that the medical community must help a woman in an unwanted pregnancy to terminate that pregnancy. We used words like that–terminate, not abort or kill.
Those ideals were also connected, for my family and for me, with being environmentally sound. I was raised to believe that the world is overpopulated, that we are eating ourselves out of a planet, and that we certainly don’t need more children who are unloved and uncared for.
What someone with a pro-choice mindset or worldview needs is the gospel understanding that God gives life and never makes mistakes, and that adoption is a central paradigm of both Christian life and Christian theology. We also need to have a clear reflection of adoption in our lives and in our churches. If we’re going to have the integrity of the witness that says “Don’t abort your child,” we also need to have the integrity of the witness that says “You are not alone and your child is not alone.” Whether that means we’re doing a kind of family ministry or are making adoption a choice, we need to have more than words. We need to be the hands and the feet of God in the lives of desperate women.
For this reason, I support an organization that ministers to the grief experienced by post-abortive women. That organization is Healing Hearts.