How can I help my family member/friend/church find help for those struggling with same-sex attraction, transgenderism, etc.?

The best thing you should say is, “Thank you for trusting me enough to tell me something important. Thank you for trusting me with something that is precious and that is hard on you.” The best thing you can do is honor your friendship by thanking that person for being honest. And then you can ask some good questions, like “How can I help?” or “How can I be a friend to you in this situation? Here’s a resource on the best thing to say and worst things to say.